{wonderfully wed challenge} tiny gifts of time

Wednesday, July 09, 2014

I don't know about you, but my goodbyes to my hubs in the morning before work last about two and a half seconds, and only a second of that includes a super quick kiss and sort-of-one-handed-hug.

But I remember when we used to hug for, like, ever. Seriously. When we were first married we were always in physical contact somehow. We would hold hands in the car and pretty much anywhere else. When we came back together after a long day apart, we would hug as if there was nothing that could tear us apart. Like an adorable almost-two-year-old that thinks that "My Mommy!" is the funnest game ever and that she has first dibs on all of my lovin and attentions.

When I was picking out a quote for our Wonderfully Wed challenge this week I ran across one from President Dieter "Awesomeness" Uchtdorf. (I'm not entirely sure if it's appropriate to give the General Authorities nicknames, but pretty sure "Awesomeness" would be a great middle name for every single one of them).

It's a simple one:
"Taking time for each other is the key to harmony at home."

I know we all have busy lives. Like those days when you sit your munchkin on your lap and put on cartoons on youtube on one side of your screen so you can do some things on the other side of your computer. I may or may not be doing that right now. I plead the fifth on that one.

So I'm not talking about a lot of time. I'm not talking about date night (which is definitely a must) or weekend getaways (also super beneficial). Right now I'm talking about just tiny little chunks of time.

Six seconds to be exact.

Six little seconds. Apparently that is how long you have to hug someone before the dopamine releases in your body. (check out the happiness project blog and further research on touch and affection here).

Six tiny little seconds. Doesn't matter how late you are in the morning, six seconds won't make a difference in your daily task list, but it could make all the difference in your relationship and how you feel the rest of your day.

The difference between two and a half seconds and six seconds isn't much in the scope of temporal time. But in eternal moments six seconds can mean a lot. It can mean the difference between telling your spouce, "Loveyabyebabe" and giving them a message that feels more like, "Babe, I love you. No matter what else is going on right now, you are the most important thing in the world. Love you forevers."

So for this week's challenge I am prescribing two six second hugs a day. Could be one in the morning when you/he leaves and one when you/he comes home. Could be just spontaneous hug attacks at random times throughout the day. Whenever works for you.

Sidenote, a good grip makes this one a bit easier. When I started this I had to grab BH in a vice grip and count out loud to six. After the first few he kind of caught on though. Doesn't have to be super sentimental, just grab him and don't let go. Kind of lets them know that you'll never let go, if you know what I mean.

So give the six second hug a try and let me know how you like it. Also let me know how last week's challenge was for you, I'd love to hear how it went!

Happy Hugging!

Monica Lynn

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